Let’s Talk About…: Getting Through the Holidays When You’re Riding Solo


Ahhh, the holidays. After the sweet, freshness of Spring and the sun-soaked heat of summer, October comes along and lays out the red carpet for four of the biggest holidays in the U.S. – Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years.

This is meant to be a time of joy, togetherness and memories made! It is a time to spend with the ones in our lives that we love: plenty of opportunities for romantic moments with our partner, extended family visiting and plans with our close family, and meet ups and gift exchanges with our closest of friends. The coming months should be filled with anticipation, preparation and excitement as we kick off the new year!

But, this season also begs the question:

What do you do if you’re alone?

What about those of us that are single and have complicated families and are workaholics, so our friends have slipped into that greyish limbo of friend-quaintance?

American society puts so much emphasis on the group aspect of these holidays that they simply don’t bother even attempting to portray these occasions for the “loners”.

  • Halloween is either a wholesome holiday for parents and children to trick-or-treat or a crazy night of partying for young adults and friends.
  • Thanksgiving is a day of feasting with as many family members as you can fit in your house or freinds-giving with your best buds.
  • Christmas is spent cherishing your significant other, unwrapping gifts with your parents the next day and a quick meet up with friends to exchange gifts.
  • New Years is dancing the night away with your besties and finishing the countdown by locking lips with the one you want to be with for the next year.

This is the image that’s jammed into our heads, constantly, all year round, making it seem that if this image isn’t you, you’re doing it wrong.

Well, fear not, you lone wolves of the holiday season! There’s no wrong way to celebrate these occasions and you shouldn’t let flying solo keep you out of the fun. So I’ve racked my brain to come up with some ideas for satisfactory solitary seasonal fun (and I’ve left some links to other people’s suggestions) so that you can enjoy the most wonderful time of the year too!


Staying in on the spooookiest night of the year? Grab yourself some hauntingly delicious dark chocolate, a bag of your favorite assorted halloween candy and take a trip down memory lane with these 90’s Disney Channel Halloween Classics.

I could barely watch these movies when I was a kid, but now the nostalgia murders me. And if you’re in need of blood, some red wine should temporarily sate your craving (cranberry juice works too). If you’re the type who likes to be actually scared, go out and find yourself a haunted house to visit!


Seeing that Thanksgiving is often spent slaving away over a hot stove for hours and hours, why not have someone else cook for you today? In these modern times, it’s much easier to track down restaurants that stay open all day long. And if you don’t like the traditional turkey and stuffing meal (which is me every year), why not head to that local Mediterranean restaurant down the street or that Japanese/Korean fusion place you’ve been meaning to try? It’s your day so you can play it by your rules but don’t forget to take some time to count your blessings, even if there don’t seem to be many of them.


Give yourself the gift of caring by spending this day pampering yourself! Take a nice, long candle lit bath with strawberries and champagne (or sparkling cider) to indulge in. Apply a face mask. Play your favorite, most relaxing album. Go out and get yourself that thing you’ve been pining over for months (so long as you can responsibly afford it). Drink a piping hot cup of coffee or tea from a cafe and peek at all the window decorations in the shops. Get yourself a tiny little tree and bust out singing Jingle Bells as you decorate. Today is about taking care of you so do anything that helps you stimulate and fortify your physical and mental health!

New Year~

Whoo! You’ve made it through another year and it’s time to celebrate! Tonight is a night to think about everything you’ve accomplished in the last 365 days. You should be proud. You deserve to get yourself done up in your best outfit and have a night out on the town. There will be plenty of people out wandering the streets before midnight comes so after getting yourself a nice dinner, find a place with a tv and a crowd and wait for the ball to drop. Shouting the countdown with strangers and reveling in our shared humanity can be an exhilarating experience. Feel the hope and excitement in the air. We’re all anticipating what the New Year will bring with bated breath and hopeful hearts.

That, or you can go home, get into your pajamas and turn in early for the night. You’ll need your rest if you’re to put your best foot forward for the New Year.

Not impressed with my suggestions? That’s okay. Here’s some more:

Mars, signing off. ◇

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